How to make your ceremony feel like you.

How to Make Your Ceremony Feel Like You

Not stiff. Not scripted. Just beautifully, unmistakably yours.

You deserve a ceremony that feels like a deep breath. A warm hug. A moment where everyone says, “That was so them.”

Whether you’re getting married, naming your child, or saying goodbye to someone you love — the most powerful ceremonies are the ones that feel personal. Human. Honest.

Here are a few simple ways we can make your ceremony feel like you — and no one else.

1. Start with your story

No matter what the ceremony is for, there’s always a story underneath. And not just the big story — but the quiet, true one.

In weddings: how did you meet? What do you love about each other when no one’s watching?

In funerals: who were they really? What little moments do you never want to forget?

In naming ceremonies: what does this new life mean to you? What hopes do you hold?

This is where I begin every ceremony — and where your voice starts to shine through.

2. Speak your own words (if you want to)

You don’t have to write your vows, or read a poem, or speak at a funeral. But if you feel like you want to — I’m here to help you shape those words in a way that feels natural, safe, and true.

Your ceremony doesn’t have to sound like anyone else’s. It just has to sound like you.

3. Choose music and readings that mean something

Forget tradition for tradition’s sake. If a particular piece of music makes you feel something — use it. If a book quote, lyric, or family phrase hits you in the heart — it belongs in your ceremony.

One couple once walked in to the Jurassic Park theme. Another played Fleetwood Mac and danced barefoot in a field. My uncle requested Metallica at his funeral.

If it makes you feel something? That’s your cue.

4. Add a ritual or gesture that feels grounding

It doesn’t have to be spiritual, or symbolic, or serious. It just needs to mean something.

A candle lit in memory. A ribbon tied around joined hands. A parent blessing a name. A moment of silence. A round of applause. A deep breath, shared together.

Ceremony lives in these small, human moments — and they’re often the ones people remember most.

5. Trust your gut

You don’t need to do what your friends did. You don’t need to follow a template. If something feels good, we’ll keep it. If something feels off, we’ll scrap it.

There’s no “right way” to do a ceremony — only your way. I’m just here to help you find it.

Final Thought:

At the end of the day, your ceremony should feel like you. Not a performance. Not a checklist. Just a beautiful, honest moment that reflects your truth.

If that’s what you’re dreaming of, I’d be honoured to help you create it.